A discrete-element based model of elastic-plastic materials with non-ideal plasticity and with an account of both cohesive and adhesive interactions inside the material is developed and verified. Based on this model, a detailed study of factors controlling the modes of adhesive wear is performed. Depending on the material and loading parameters, we observed three main modes of wear: slipping, plastic grinding, cleavage, and breakaway. We find that occurrence of a particular mode is determined by the combination of two dimensionless material parameters: (1) the ratio of the adhesive stress to the pure shear strength of the material, and (2) sensitivity parameter of material shear strength to local pressure. The case study map of asperity wear modes in the space of these parameters has been constructed. Results of this study further develop the findings of the widely discussed studies by the groups of J.-F. Molinari and L. Pastewka.